I think I can confidently say that we all long to find balance in life. I know I do. When I was a young mom and just starting out on my entrepreneur journey I thought I knew what balance was supposed to look like.
Unfortunately, what I thought balance should look like and the reality of my life did not always line up. Every had that experience?
For years it bugged me. You see I’m a detailed person. I like my list and all my ducks in a row. I get satisfaction when my office and my home run well. You know, projects on time, happy clients, happy kids, happy hubby, dishes that are done and laundry magically hung neatly in the closet. I love a well ordered life.
For years I thought that balance meant all the areas of my life deserved my equal and undivided attention. But then an area would get hijacked and my previously well balanced life titled sideways and now hung crooked and out of whack. The tension I felt in trying to make everything work was frustrating.
I thought it was me. That somehow I was just really bad at this balance thing.
That was until I had my perspective altered in 2016.
Michael Hyatt and Daniel Harkavy released a book called “Living Forward.” I was already a fan of Michael’s work and was excited for this new book. There were many challenges in this book that changed how I started approaching life. However, in regards to balance it was this particular paragraph that stopped me.
“We fool ourselves if we think balance means giving equal attention to everything in our lives. Balance only happens in dynamic tension. Balance is giving not equal but appropriate attention to each of the various categories of your life.” ( Daniel Harkavy – Living Forward )
Maybe you’ve figured this out long ago, but for me it was a whole new way of embracing this idea of balance.
Instead of trying to balance everything equally I now approach the things on my plate by asking these 3 questions:
Is this something that should be on my plate right now?
If the answer to question 1 is yes, then how much appropriate attention will this realistically take from me in this season?
Am I ok with the tension this is going to create? If so, how do I handle that tension in a health way in order to stay in balance?
Maybe you’ve had the same myth of balance like I did – thinking everything on your plate needs your equal attention. Instead I challenge you to look at the things on your plate right now. All of it. Family, Self, Business, Relationships, Community activities. Are all those things getting the appropriate amount of attention they need in this season? If not, why? Is it because there is too much on the plate? If so, what needs to go from that list?
Take some time to sit down and answer these things honestly. Remember, we are meant to thrive not just survive this life. That is my hope for you!